https://www.dhewi.co.uk/tags/personal/ Recent content in Personal on dhewi https://www.dhewi.co.uk/%3Clink%20or%20path%20of%20image%20for%20opengraph,%20twitter-cards%3E https://www.dhewi.co.uk/%3Clink%20or%20path%20of%20image%20for%20opengraph,%20twitter-cards%3E Hugo -- 0.125.7 en-gb Thu, 17 Apr 2025 19:33:11 +0100 https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/definitions-and-gender-wars/ Thu, 17 Apr 2025 19:33:11 +0100 https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/definitions-and-gender-wars/ In the nineteen-nineties, there was a small chain of shops devoted to men who wished to be, or seem to be (both were catered for), women. I discovered this after reading the autobiography of the transgender owner, part of an exploration that was very important in my life. Visiting the shop in London blew my mind. There’s no doubt in my mind that if things then had been like they have been in the twenty-twenties, I would have gone the whole way down the gender reassignment road, the sheer inevitability carrying me. https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/this-is-where-populism-should-go/ Mon, 18 Nov 2024 20:03:23 +0000 https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/this-is-where-populism-should-go/ Politics has become poisonous. I don’t think it needs to be. Government doesn’t work. I think it can. I have some ideas, and because I have no power and no platform, writing them down here is the best I can do. The positive ideas will be at the end, and it gets negative first. Bear with me. The ideas make more sense with the framing. What do you MEAN, government doesn’t work? https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/living-cheaply-by-choice/ Sat, 08 Jun 2024 21:10:34 +0100 https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/living-cheaply-by-choice/ We live cheaply. By choice. I don’t talk about it, usually, because it’s difficult to say anything and walk the tightrope between people’s pity if they get the impression we have to, and them thinking we’re holier-than-thou if they don’t. But sometimes I wish I could explain, so I’m going to give it a try. When we got married, I was used to spending whatever I felt I needed and not looking too far ahead. https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/join-the-tory-party-now/ Wed, 24 Apr 2024 17:18:05 +0100 https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/join-the-tory-party-now/ Right now feels like an excellent time for any British citizen who cares about the direction of the UK to join the Conservative Party. Wait, don’t go, I know how that sounds, considering “right now” is April 2024, and everybody in the UK hates Tories and wishes they’d go away. And yes, it feels very important to spell out that this is April 2024, because this take will date very fast and won’t apply in a year’s time at most. https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/everything-is-a-religion/ Sat, 23 Mar 2024 09:00:00 +0000 https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/everything-is-a-religion/ We are shaped by our experiences more than most of us like to think. And I grew up religious. For all of my formative years, and quite a way into adulthood, religion was the dominant force in my life. So a very big part of how I look at the world has been formed by that. I see religion everywhere. It’s all religion. Especially the parts full of people who would look at me strangely for insisting on this, because religion is alien to them and they don’t understand it at all. https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/bullies-rule-the-world-because-we-let-them/ Wed, 06 Mar 2024 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/bullies-rule-the-world-because-we-let-them/ We get the leaders we deserve. Partly because we accept as unstated fact that we need leaders. The people who think it’s important that someone is in charge, are, oddly enough, the ones in charge. The rest of us aren’t so bothered, so we aren’t. And consequently we don’t get to push the point that maybe it’s OK to have less leadership, because we aren’t responsible for the conversation. For some years now, I’ve been quite visible online. https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/on-the-leaving-of-things/ Tue, 21 Aug 2007 06:21:00 +0000 https://www.dhewi.co.uk/posts/on-the-leaving-of-things/ I try to take things with me where I can, Devices that seem normal, not too new, Objects that my hand knows how to grasp As well as thoughts that take no energy to think. There is a spice to newness, but it’s rich, And savoured best when sprinkled on the bland. Too many pieces of a former life Stay back among the pieces of their own, And they are gaps for me, as I for them.